I asked a bunch of people these questions this morning, and here are the answers:
What is the point of dating? What is it all for?
- To find someone you like to bear witness to your life, to confirm your worth and existence.
- To torture us. God is like a dungeon master sometimes.
- Misery? Christian notions of courting? Bad addiction?
- Marriage and respectability
- To have a best friend for life.
- To get your dick sucked.
- To be taken care of when you can't take care of yourself.
- To find a soulmate and be done.
- Because the other option is worse.
- It's senseless, but I'm going to keep doing it.
- Our God-given need for companionship, affection, physical contact, etc. Then we complicate it with fear.
- There's that whole idealistic fallacy that "society is telling me what to do." NATURE is telling us and there's nothing wrong with that. Society IS making us neurotic, though.
- To find love. Feel good about ourselves. Learn about ourselves and what we want.
- Unlike my mom and dad, I want to end up married and in love with just one person for the rest of my life.
- To make a connection and feel special.
- Validation. Sense of accomplishment. Seeking someone we deem worth sharing our time with and vice versa. What IS dating?
- To find someone to bear witness to my life, to feel safe and loved, to sit on a porch holding hands and talking when we're 80.
- Hard to say, really. Generally it doesn't seem like a very honest activity.